Having marriage communication problems? Take the following quiz to help pinpoint a possible communication weak point. Your perceptions of what is true and what is false will indeed take you in very different directions: 

1. I believe that criticism can be a very positive behavior in resolving marital conflict. True___  False___

2. I respond very well to criticism from my spouse; it motivates me to be better. True___  False___

3. Neither my partner nor I become defensive when we criticize or judge one another. True___  False___

4. Our best solutions to marital issues result from blame and relationship score keeping. True___  False___

5. It is easy for me to stay emotionally engaged when my partner nags and criticizes me. True___  False___

You likely found this little quiz very simple, but perhaps also felt some pain and remorse. If you are like virtually all of the couples we work with at LIFE Marriage Retreats, you answered “false” to every question, or at least to four out of the five.

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